‘Making Friends with the Crocodile’ by Mick Canning

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By Somali K Chakrabarti

 

Prejudices, biases and gender inequalities have always existed in our society, and from time to time these come to the fore front. But, when such points are raised by foreigners, there is always a risk that the writer may succumb to temptation of stereotypical or caricaturish portrayal of the characters or the culture of a country.

Making Friends with the Crocodile, written by Mick Canning is a book that highlights gender inequalities prevailing in a North Indian village. Steering clear of stereotypes, the book depicts lives of people in a normal village family, and the conditions that not only dissuade a woman from reporting an assault, but also subjugate her further by holding her responsible for it.

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Making friends with Crocodiles is available on Amazon. 

Here’s a bit about the author. Mick Canning is an Englishman, who has traveled extensively in North India, Nepal and the Middle East. Mick finely captures the essence of these places in words and in pictures in his blog that goes by his name. I have always enjoyed reading his posts on Bodhgaya, Varanasi, Sarnath, and Punjab. While I had been intending to read his book since quite some time, I managed to do so during this weekend.

In his book, Mick has delved into the mind of a middle- aged woman living in rural Bihar (I have no  idea how he managed to analyse and portray the sensitivities) and has beautifully sketched the love – hate relationship she shares with her daughter in law.

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Mathematics and Poetry – What’s the connection?

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Mathematics and Poetry – What’s the connection?

By Somali K Chakrabarti

 

The mathematician destroyed all the poetry of the rainbow by reducing it to its prismatic colours.” is how Newton was once referred to by noted poets of his time.

Poet William Blake had once said, “God is not a Mathematical Diagram“.

But a flower surely is! Mathematics defines the shape of spirals and curves of sea shells, sunflower heads, wherein poetry describes their beauty.

Maths and Poetry

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Rexit : Goodbye RBI Governor Rajan

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Rexit : Goodbye RBI Governor Rajan

By Somali K Chakrabarti

 

Raghuram Rajan

The economy was in tatters, inflation was sky high

When, Raghuram Rajan was placed at the helm of the RBI

While the nation swooned on his charm

he had to prove his mettle, walking on a rope tight

challenges were aplenty; he put up a tough fight –

 

His actions bore the fruits – the situation is no longer fragile

Inflation has halved, reserves have swelled, and currency stabilized,

It was but natural that people were keen

that Rajan would hold his second term on the Mint Street,

for a time window in which the economy would completely heal

 

Yet as he bids goodbye, the send-off is left unexplained

People are upset, feeling the sting and pain

As a few in the power seats glee, and corner his credit

It seems that perhaps he refused to play the game

For the whims and fancies of some, merit loses yet once again

 

The exit of Raghuram Rajan as the RBI Governor has left people shocked.

Yu can find the article on ‘Why Rajan’s exit has people worrying’ on this link on Eonomics Times   http://goo.gl/Y5B84m

 

 

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Feline Quotes

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By Somali K Chakrabarti

 

“God made the cat to give man the pleasure of stroking a tiger.”  ~ Joseph Mery

Sometime back, I had written a post on ‘Po’ – The Little Kitten. It happens so that the playful kitten Po, now grown up by a few months,  has landed up at my house, and is keeping me on my toes.  As we are adjusting to each other’s presence, most of my time now goes in watching its antics.

The kitten has peculiar habits with strange feline ways of communicating and emoting. There is a silent mystery about the creature as it disappears within the flash of a second and sneaks into the weirdest corners of the house, finding a new place to hide every day. At other times, it makes itself particularly endearing by playfully rolling on its back and rubbing its head on our feet and purring, on being petted.

It butts its head, suddenly comes running and bumps me, sits on my desk, does high five, stares continuously and then blinks, curls up and sulks when scolded.  Going by the saying that when a cat bumps you and rubs against you, they “claim” you by leaving a bit of their musk on you, ‘Po’ seemed to have claimed our house with the inmates.

Po Kitten

There are moments when Po exhibits bursts of intense dashing through the house for reasons best known to him. He plays the hunt and chase game with paper balls or soft toys and is very curious about everything that goes on inside the house. Yes, he also scratches furniture for territorial marking, and jumps out of the windows at the first opportunity but is extremely scared to go out of the door.

Most of our discussions at home these days are oddly centered around the cat.

While trying to dig out about the behavioral traits of cats, I came across several quotes on cats. I am listing here the ones that I found particularly interesting.

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Frosty Beverages

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By Somali K Chakrabarti

Beverages

In the sweltering summer heat
How we pine for a cool retreat!
Some savory cold drinks
To beat the scorching heat!!
Frosty beverage treats
Punches and Smoothies
Topped with refreshing cream
To bring in a wintery feel !!

Watermelon, lychee,
Strawberries, tiramisu,
and apple tangy green!!
Now, what are we waiting for?
It’s time to rush in…

Where? 

To find out about these delicious beverages, please read the post  Take on the Summer on Life11

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Small Acts Of Care Fuelled by Love

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Small Acts Of Care Fuelled by Love

The

Pull of gravity

Cannot be seen, yet it is felt

In the form of Gravitational Waves

Ripples flow through the fabric of space

In a way alike, good vibes link hearts,

Build ties in the strangest ways

A heart-warming smile,

A gentle touch,

An act of care,

A warm

Hug,

Break barriers, rise above frontiers, form deep

Bonds

#FuelledbyLove

 

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A Dance With The Corporate Ton by Lata Subramanian

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A Dance With The Corporate Ton by Lata Subramanian

What is expected of me?

This is a question that often comes to the mind of employees while working in an organization. Only sometimes the answer is clear but most of the times employees are left wondering as to what the implicit expectations are, and what it takes to smoothly navigate through the journey in the Corporate World.

A Dance With The Corporate Ton

 

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Humble and talented

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Blogosphere is a place where we get to connect with some amazing people, whom we would not have otherwise known. These connections lead to sharing of experiences, perspectives, sometimes heart to heart talks and learning from each other. The best thing is the chain of connection that develops with like minded people spanning across the globe.
Here I reblog this post in which Lynn, an amazing woman living in the Middle East, a mother of 9 kids, an excellent cook and a very active blogger decided to introduce me with her connections. Thank you so much Lynn. I need to learn the secret of such efficient multitasking from you.

Why Do People Seek Love Outside Marriage

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Why Do People Seek Love Outside Marriage

By Somali K Chakrabarti

 

Going a little offbeat from the usual kind of posts on this blog on the occasion of Valentine’s Day, when the idea of Love pervades the atmosphere and fills up most of the heart space, I present here a topic, the occurrence of which may not be as infrequent as we may think/want it to be.

This guest post is written by Sarbani Chowdhury, a Clinical Psychologist with the Indian Air Force. Sarbani draws from her experience of counselling couples who have been involved in relationships outside their marriage, and shares her observation on why people sometimes seek love outside their marriage.

Read on what Sarbani has to say…

 

Love Outside Marriage

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Extramarital affairs are nothing new in human society. Despite all the social disapproval and taboos, one out of every seven marriages face this. As a therapist, I have come across a large percentage of my clients, who are involved in extramarital affairs. It urged me to explore how affairs get started, what goes on in married people’s lives that lead them to have an affair. Clients, both from civil corporate society and military organisations were interviewed.

Surprisingly, those who are or have been in affairs expressed that it helped them to know their self-worth better and gave them an increased sense of self–esteem and confidence because of the validation the person received from his/her lover. It brought out many hidden qualities in them which were never expressed in their relationship with their spouse. They re-experienced the excitement and stimulation in their lives, which had gradually vanished from their marriage.

 

How does marital happiness or satisfaction change over time?

Where does the feeling of euphoria disappear which all of us experience during initial years of our courtship or marriage? Clinically, when in love, our brains are flooded with a chemical – Phenyl ethylamine (PEA), which lasts from six months to two years of the relationship. This produces the emotional connect. Marriage loses its freshness overtime and couples stop making that extra effort of being loving and caring and making those small gestures which makes the other person feel special. It is the responsibility of both the partners in a marriage to keep the essence of romance alive and let the other person know their special place in their partner’s life.

It is mandatory to keep doing something out of the ordinary to make the relationship lively and interesting.

 

Looks do matter even after you are married!

Remember, during courtship period how one makes a special effort to look his/her best? Many cases of extra marital affairs begin when one of the spouses neglects his or her physical appearance and hygiene or becomes out of shape, may be due to pressure of work in office, coupled with running a household and raising children.

 

Keep the spark alive

60% of couples agreed that they invested very little time and creativity to rekindle the romance with their spouses. Loneliness was prevalent in their marriages even when they were living under the same roof. Their marriage was devoid of any emotional connection. A great marriage is not something that just happens, it is something that has to be created. It was found that married couples did not experience enough communication or affection in their lives and had fallen into the destructive communication patterns, blaming the partner and feeling frustrated. Feeling distant and alienated from each other, they looked for support and affection elsewhere.

 

Being a friend to your spouse is the best gift

When one of the spouses goes through some kind of crisis, may be at work or in personal life, and he/she gets the required warmth, affection, empathy from a colleague or a neighbour in the backdrop of a busy or disinterested spouse, it often fuels a friendship which eventually leads to an affair.

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The power of touch

80% of the couples agreed to have forgotten that a simple touch has great power. A simple hug, holding hands while talking, a kiss gives a boost to the bonding chemical in the brain.

 

The attitude of gratitude

It is very common for spouses to take each other for granted. It gets to the point where people peripheral to marriage seem more concerned and ironically they are generously appreciated.

 

Mind your manners

Things can go awry between married couples. Some years after marriage they start taking each other for granted and don’t hesitate in saying hurtful things without gauging the pain it inflicts on the partner. Too often, couples show more respect to a stranger than to their partner. In marriages that are dominated by anger of either spouse, the first thing that vanishes is intimacy, for most of the energies of the spouse at the receiving end of the anger outbursts get consumed in what is known as ‘avoidance behaviour’.

 

Too perfect to be sorry

The simple word “SORRY” can heal many wounds if correctly timed. But what is it that keeps us from apologising? A big ego, keeping “score”, the fear of looking weak, fear of giving in. Yes, we all have these feelings, but why let self-inflicted feelings keep us from doing the right thing and spoil the relationship? Not only it is important to say I am sorry but it’s important to say it from the heart. A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers!

 

Any reason is a good reason and any time is the best time to say “I Love You”

When was the last time you said, “I Love You” to your spouse? Why are these three magical words extensively used only during courtship and affairs, but not after marriage? To love someone is wonderful and to tell them that, is amongst the greatest gifts one can give. People think love is an emotion but in reality it is an activity which is why it is very important to say “I Love You” to the people you care about.

In the age of high-speed internet, WhatsApp and crash diets, it’s quite common for people to want to “microwave” their marriage to renewal.

Does it really work?

When it comes to relationships, there are no short cuts. It takes time. Ironically, the search for a quick answer to your marital situation delays the process you will eventually have to go through.

When it comes to your marriage, slow is fast and fast is slow. In other words, if you try to go too fast and skip-over the necessary steps, you’ll slow down the whole process. But if you go slow and rebuild your marriage one step at a time…that’s the fastest way!

 

 

What do you think the reasons could be?

 


** Lei: A wreath for your soul  is a collection of short poems that combine elements of nature, philosophy, culture, science and spirituality. Take a peek here on Kindle Store.

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Use Storytelling to Explain Your Company’s Purpose

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While purpose is essential to a strong corporate culture, it is often activated and reinforced through narrative. Individuals must learn to connect their drives to the organization’s purpose and to articulate their story to others.

 

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