By Somali K Chakrabarti
Overcoming challenges brings success, success brings its own challenges.
Success has its own attractions, but it also has the side effects.
When you start something new as a professional or as an entrepreneur, or in sports or in a creative field, you generally start with a high risk appetite.
You are enthused and you put in your best efforts and toil for your success.
You make mistakes, learn from them and grow on your experiences. Any positive feedback you get adds to your levels of motivation and bolsters the hope of further positive outcome.
When success finally knocks the door, you’re excited; you get adulation from all quarters and you cherish the attention.
After you have tasted success, you want to dearly hold on to it. You know how the view at the top is and you want to stay there.
You have learnt to capitalize on your strengths. You know very well what works for you and what doesn’t.
At the same time you may feel that you have to live up to the expectations that are thrust on you. Chances are that you may become are a captive of expectations – not only of the others, but your own expectations as well.
Pressure comes in multitude with positions of success. That is when your tolerance for failure reduces and anxiety starts building up.
One day when you suddenly find that the tried and tested methods of success are not producing the same results anymore, you get stressed out, which in turn further aggravates the anxiety. The fear of failure gets on to you and robs you of the enjoyment that you derive from your work. Your productivity drops.
This can happen to anyone – to the young or to very experienced individuals.
“Success is like anything worthwhile. It has a price. You have to pay the price to win and you have to pay the price to get to the point where success is possible. Most important, you must pay the price to stay there.” ~ Vince Lombardi
The first step to beat the fear of failure nor anxiety is to acknowledge and accept the fact that things cannot always be under your control or work in your favor.
Not everybody likes to cater, for a long time, to the ever changing standards of perfection, benchmarks, and demands from all quarters. If you are one of those who do not want to get bogged down by expectations, and yet want to continue to work, for the sheer pleasure of it, the best option is to accept that ups and downs are a part of life and move on with grace. Though you may or may not miss the limelight, you will be happy with what you are doing, of course as long as you can earn a living out of it.
We have seen many people, particularly athletes or those in creative fields, call it quits at the peak of the career.
Bjorn Borg retired by choice in 1983, after claiming 11 Grand Slam singles titles throughout the late ’70s and early ’80s.
However, if you are among those who want to remain in competition and play a long innings, then it may require thinking afresh.
In his book ‘What Got You Here Won’t Get You There’, Marshall Goldsmith explains out that successful people sometimes fall in the trap of believing that they are successful because they behave in a particular way.
Yet the very strengths that have led to their success may also impede them from adapting to changing needs. Hubris, born of success, can accelerate one’s downfall.
That could be the time to reinvent yourself.
Like there is no sure shot formula for success, there is no one formula for holding on to success. You would need to look from a fresh pair of eyes, and reinvent yourself to suit the changing preferences of your clients, audience or internal and external stakeholders.
In an environment where uncertainty looms a large, you need to proactively identify and recognize the changing patterns, and find ways of working around the challenges.
This is where a good mentor or a coach can play a key role. A coach can help you to identify alternative ways of working, while optimally using the skills, talents and abilities that you already have.
By taking a small smart step forward toward your bigger goal, evaluating the learning and building it into what you do next, you can avoid hubris, anxiety or complacence getting into your way of retaining your success.
“No leader, however great, can long continue unless he wins battles. The battle decides all.” ~ Vince Lombardi
The next time you find yourself basking in the glow of success, it may help to remember that success is not permanent, and be willing to modulate yourself if the need be.
Here is an advice from the book ‘Why I Failed: Lessons from Leaders’ by Shweta Punj
When in doubt, step back, reassess your priorities,
Remember you don’t have to follow others
Make yourself of steel
While money is important, aiming on a broader social objective will help you perform better
Don’t lose sight of your long term goals
Don’t compromise on ethics
Have you ever felt restricted by your own success or have been apprehensive that success may slip out of your hand?
Would love to know what are you ways to beat these side effects of success.
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